Guys Want a Future With A Bit of Mystery

For a few years now I have had this theory that most guys do not want their entire future to be etched in stone by a woman. The majority of guys want to maintain some mystery about what they will be doing ten and twenty years from now, and even where they will be doing it. There are a number of men who find what they perceive to be the “right woman”, and surrender to her vision of their mutual future, but many of these men do so with at least a bit of reluctance. I may be wrong about all of what I have just said, but I don’t think so. In fact, yesterday I was given additional evidence that my theory is valid. My older brother, Dane, called me up last night. He had experienced both a little terror and a little disappointment the evening before, and he called to tell me about it.

For a month Dane had been smitten by a woman at his workplace and about a week ago he finally mustered the courage to ask her out to dinner. She accepted and their big date took place a few evenings ago.

According to Dane, she resided in a very nice townhouse apartment. He knocked on the door and she asked him to come in. There in her living room along a wall was a beautiful, shiny piano. Dane said he was initially very impressed. He stated to his date that he had no idea that she played the piano and that she was going to have to play something for him sometime.

The woman announced that she did not play the piano or any musical instrument, and that the piano was for her children. Dane was a bit surprised by this revelation of children and said that he did not realize that she had kids. The woman calmly explained that she in fact did not have any kids right at the moment, that the piano was purchased for the kids she was going to have. Dane’s date proclaimed in no uncertain manner that each of her kids was going to learn how to play the piano, thus the purchase of the instrument.

My brother stated with melancholy-etched amusement that he was disconcerted by the idea of this woman buying a piano for her yet to be conceived children. Dane said, “I looked at this piano and thought about how it was part of some big life plan that she had already formulated, a life plan that obviously required a man, and I got totally freaked-out.”

I pretty much remember the exact words Dane said there at the end because I found it interesting that he said the woman’s plans “required” a man rather than “included” a man. To tell you the truth, that does sound kind of freaky.

I doubt there will be a second date. Dane is too free-spirited for such a calculating, purposeful woman. My theory is that most men are, or at least they want to be.