I'm Really More Picky Than Snobby

When it comes to going out with unknown guys, I’m awfully picky. Sometimes I think I can come-off as a snob, but really, I’m just picky.

I think I’m picky because I am “different”, not better, not worse, just different. I’m not into parties or clubs. When I stop and give it some thought, I almost never drink just to drink. I enjoy a glass of wine with dinner, or even while watching TV, but I won’t drink just for the sake of consuming alcohol. It might sound contradictory, but I like to do stupid stuff with a guy. I’m talking about miniature golf, or going on a trip out to Matt’s Hometown Pizza for dinner in the tiny town of Stillman Valley. Someday I’d like to go to Maywood Park Racetrack with a guy, eat hotdogs, munch on popcorn, and watch the horseracing.

I have had an OKCupid account for a couple of months. OKCupid is a dating website. In my OKCupid profile I have the web address to my blog. I receive about six or eight messages a day, on average, at OKCupid. The first message I ever got the guy just said “Hi, wassup?” Two words, and one wasn't even a real word. I did not respond. I’m not sure what I could have said. But I figured if the guy really found my OKCupid profile interesting he would have put more thought into his message. Along those same lines, I receive a lot of OKCupid messages that tell me nothing more than I am hot, or I have a sexy smile. Again, I’m somewhat flattered, but I’m not sure what I’m supposed to say, so I don’t respond. To be completely honest, I don’t want to respond to these messages. I feel kind of bad just admitting that, but it’s the truth. 

Some of the messages I get will ask me if I’m interested in casual sex. These messages do not offend me. I’m glad the guy is up-front with his intentions. Still, I generally do not respond to such messages. I’m sure the guys sending these offers will understand.

I have received a number of messages that feature a profile photo of a guy without his shirt. Thankfully, there are always pants, but sometimes no shirt. These photos are not of the guy as he is getting out of a pool. He is shirtless specifically because he wants to show his body. Usually the guy is well-built, which I can appreciate, but regardless of what the message might say, just being sent by a shirtless guy seems to give the overture a lack of depth and romance. Still, I can’t fault the strategy. I’m sure these guys will find success with other girls.

The messages that initially get my attention are the ones that contain a number of paragraphs. I will always read the messages that have three or more paragraphs (unless they are sent by a shirtless guy). I go to the edge of my seat when they first start talking about what they find interesting about me, and then go into some personal, relating characteristic of their own. I can become fascinated by the guy who reveals little things about himself, like a fear of dentists, or an appreciation of chocolate sprinkles atop vanilla ice cream. And I can safely say that it excites me when I read that someone has read my OKCupid profile and found it interesting enough to warrant a visit to my blog. I know the guy has put in some effort, at least more effort than a quickly written “wassup?”

I write this blog entry now, on Saturday morning, because tonight I am going to meet a guy I contacted through OKCupid. This is the second such foray into an OKCupid connection. Of course he knows I have a blog so unlike the first time, I will not mention this guy in my blog after this entry, nor will I relay my experiences, no matter what happens. I will not make that mistake again. I will simply say that he wore a shirt in his OKCupid profile photo, he wrote more than two paragraphs to me in his initial OKCupid message, and he has read my blog. Another words; he survived my pickiness.